Monday, March 30, 2020

Your wife deserves to be loved!

1. GO BACK TO SCHOOL :
You need to become a student of your mate. Watch her life and get a sense of her potential, goals and dreams. Determine how to give encouragement or empowerment to overcome a fear.
 
2. AFFIRM HER STRENGTHS :

As I said, we all need a cheerleader in our corner, and no one should be a bigger fan of your spouse than you. When you see an area of competence and excellence in her life, tell her! Be specific in giving examples of where you have seen her being wise and discerning. 

Praise her for whatever she does well, whether it’s cooking, decorating your home, caring for the children, helping people, excelling at work, or being a person of character. Your enthusiasm will put a smile on her face and give her a confidence to pursue her goals.

3. CRITIQUE CAREFULLY :

If we are serious about helping our spouse become a better person, there will be times when some constructive criticism is necessary. This is dangerous territory — tread carefully!

There is a fine line between exhorting and destroying. Our job is to build one another up, not tear one another down. Communicate your intentions to help in the best possible light so your spouse does not become defensive or feel put down. 
Paint the picture of a diamond in the rough; it just has to be mined — polished, cleaned up, refined. Focus on the diamond, not the rough — remember that it takes seven positive comments to outweigh one negative.

4. PRAISE HER PUBLICLY :

One of the most damaging things we can do to our spouse is to criticize them in front of others. On the other hand, there is nothing as empowering and uplifting as public affirmation. 

A lot of people today seem to enjoy cutting down their spouse in the presence of others, whether friends, acquaintances or children. Instead, always speak well of your mate, whether or not your spouse is present.



5. WORK AS A TEAM :

Seek your mate’s input in your decision-making. God brought you together because you complement one another. Work as a team, and you will not only make better decisions, you will communicate, “I value you.” You will also discover how often God will speak to you through your spouse.


6. PROVIDE SECURITY :

Dave Currie, a frequent speaker at marriage conferences, makes the excellent point that you should be a safe place for your mate to land. 

Create an environment where your mate knows she can share anything openly and freely without the slightest hesitation.
Be sure to remind your spouse often how much you love and cherish her. I tell my wife Eleanor all the time how much I admire her and want her. Assure your mate that you will always be there for her and you will never leave her. 
The security of knowing that there is someone who is always behind you, no matter what, creates an environment that encourages a person to take the necessary risks to chase their dreams.

7. Support and encourage her dreams :

A man shows respect for his wife when her dreams become his priority. In little things in big things, men should encourage and support their wives to achieve their hopes and dreams.


8. Work hard to provide for the family :

When a man works hard, it communicates respect to his wife. A lazy man is incapable of communicating true respect to his wife (or anyone else).


9. Help out around the house :

Each household is different, but in the homes where the wife manages the domestic duties, the husband should still be willing to jump in and help out. Doing the dishes or folding laundry is a simple way to show respect to your wife.


10. Engage in conversation with her and listen when she is talking:
 believe the typical wife’s need for communication is every bit as strong as the typical husband’s need for sex.
 A husband shows respect to his wife when he turns off his phone, turns of the TV and engages in meaningful conversation and he ALWAYS tells her the truth. Dishonesty is the ultimate form of disrespect.

11. Make time with your wife a priority :

A man shows respect for his wife when he makes her a consistent priority on his calendar. A husband should give his best energies to his wife; not his leftovers after he has given his best to hobbies, career or other pursuits.


12. Continuously pursues her :

Most guys are great at pursuing during the dating phase of the relationship, but we get lazy, inconsistent and unromantic in marriage.

 We show our love and respect to our wives when we continuously give them the best of ourselves and keep growing better with every season of life together.

How To Show Respect To Your Husband: Should Try It!

  • Stop what you are doing and look at him when he talks.
  • Refrain from interrupting him when he’s talking.
  • Pray for him.
  • Pray with him.
  • Pray over him when he is going through some tough decisions or stressful situations.
  • Smile at him.
  • Tell him something you admire about him.

  • Ask him about his day.
  • Talk positively about him to others.
  • Thank him for something he’s done.
  • Give him a space of his own IN the house.
  • Dress in a way that makes him feel he’s worth it.
  • Let him pack the car for vacation.
  • Ask, “what can I do for you today?”
  • Let him drive.
  • If going to the store, ask “is there anything I can get for you while I’m at the store?”
  • Stop what you are doing and welcome him home with a kiss.
  • Give him a kiss as he walks out the door in the morning.
  • Get his input on big decisions.
  • Honor his requests.
  • Let him know you like your life with him.
  • Encourage him in his line of work.
  • Avoid the use of sarcasm when speaking to him.
  • Say “yes” in bed.
  • Initiate love making.
  • Let him know what you like most in bed.
  • Compliment him often.
  • Make his favorite meal.
  • Avoid complaining.
  • Write him a love note.
  • Avoid criticizing him…especially in front of others.
  • Respond to his thoughts and advice with enthusiasm.
  • Respect his likes and dislikes.
  • Refrain from comparing him to other men.
  • Ask for his help.
  • Kindly try to understand his reasons, even when you don’t agree.
  • Give him space and time to spend on his hobbies.
  • Focus on what he’s doing right.
  • Be happy and positive when he is home.
  • Speak honorably about him and to him in front of the kids.
  • Humbly admit your mistakes.

  • Avoid nagging.
  • Refrain from placing the blame on him when something goes wrong.
  • Respect his stuff; ask before moving or throwing away something that is his.
  • Work to keep yourself in shape and attractive.
  • Show an interest in his friends.
  • Buy his favorite brand of personal care products.
  • Let him open his own mail.
  • Laugh at his jokes…or at least smile.
  • Give him advance warning of family activities, schedules, and events.
  • Show an interest in topics, hobbies, or occupations he enjoys.Read.
  • Pray. Memorize. Apply. It’s all there in And the Word Became Flesh
    Carve out time to spend with him apart from the children.
  • Give him time to unwind after work before bombarding him with home life.
  • Touch him with affection.
  • Talk together about your family’s goals and how you can achieve them together.
  • Let him do his “to-do list” in his own time…even if his timing is not your timing.
  • Defend him if others speak disrespectfully about him.
  • Send him an encouraging email or text.
  • Surprise him with a gift of something he’s wanted for some time.
  • Meet him at his work for lunch.
  • Meet his co-workers and speak kindly of both him and them.
  • Reserve some energy for him at the end of the day.
  • Help him to lead your family spiritually by providing him with the resources he needs to encourage the family in the Lord.
  • Get up when he gets up.
  • Go to bed when he goes to bed.
  • Be kind and thoughtful to his parents, siblings, and relatives.
  • Refrain from belittling his intelligence.
  • Give him the benefit of the doubt.
  • Sit with him while he watches one of HIS favorite TV shows.
  • Ask for his advice.
  • Remember that your personal actions reflect on him even when you are apart; don’t do anything that would embarrass him.
  • Tell him you love him.
  • Be patient with him when he makes mistakes.
  • Thank him for providing for you and your family.
  • Tell him what makes you proud to be with him.
  • Keep your expectations of him reasonable AND realistic.
  • Refrain from talking down to him.
  • Clean the house or at least the parts he notices most before he comes home.
  • Wear his favorite outfit from you closet.
  • Fix your hair the way he likes it best.

How to Make My Crush Fall in Love With Me!

How to Get Your Crush to Fall For You!

1. Ask them to do you a small favor. If they perform a minor act of service for you, they will unconsciously associate feelings of approval and positivity with you, says Mario Sinelmann, CEO and Dating Coach at Up Your Dating Game. “It’s sneaky but harmless.” Don’t make ‘em stand in line and fight for the last Popeye’s chicken sammie, but it’d be okay to ask them to read over an important email you have to send to your boss, ya feel?

2. Laugh at their jokes. “The more we laugh with someone, the more we are drawn to them,” says Wyatt Fisher, PsyD, licensed psychologist and host of marriage podcast, Marriage Steps.



3. Make eye contact. These things just happen. Getting someone to notice you is hard, as is keeping their attention. If you want someone to notice you, make eye contact, but not for too long. It’s sort of like playing with a small pet and dangling a string in their faces. Pulling the string back and forth keeps their attention.

This doesn’t mean you stare at the crush constantly. That can give

anyone a big creep factor. To make eye contact with a crush, you should glance at them, smile, and then put your head down or look away shyly. This will give the crush a hint that you like them without freaking them out.
Eye contact also conveys confidence, which is appealing to most people because it’s a way of building intimacy. People who are in love have more eye contact, studies show.

4. Share your flaws and imperfections. Okay, you don’t have to mention that one time you threw up from eating too many Hot Pockets, but you can totally talk about that weird dimple that pops up when you smile. Sharing your flaws and imperfections makes people feel humble and safe, says Fisher, “which will encourage them to open up more about their shortcomings, which breeds emotional intimacy.”

5. Be present on Instagram. “Post quirky photos of your outings or hobbies. To capture your crush’s attention, devote some of your Stories to the things—activities, music, or memes—they love,” says Celia Schweyer, dating expert at Dating Relationships Advice. “Live and feature your authentic self, while adding a few posts that tell them you totally get their passion.”

6. Watch a scary movie with them. Adrenaline sometimes = attraction. “Putting your crush in fear-enhancing situations has the potential to make them like you because they attribute their adrenaline rush and increased heart rate to you, rather than the situation,” says Adina Mahalli, relationship expert at Maple Holistics.



7. Carry a warm drink in your hand. “According to research, people tend to view those around them with more warmth when they have a hot drink in their hand,” says Mahalli. (Remember when I told you earlier that your Starbucks latte was def doing you favors?) Oh, and avoid colds drink too if you really want to play this up.

8. Mimic what your crush is doing. Yup, it’s a thing called the Chameleon effect. “When you mimic someone’s behavior, they think more favorably of you. It creates a connection,” says licensed sex therapist Cheryl Cyr. You see someone smile, you smile. They rub their face, you rub your face. They move their hair, you move your hair. “Follow it up with eye contact to seal the deal,” says Cyr.

9. Wear the same colors they do. “Notice what color clothes they wear most often, and then add some of those colors to your wardrobe,” says Cyr. Pro Tip: Your crush is totally going to notice that you’re wearing the colors they’re attracted to.




10. Find unusual similarities. “We are attracted to people we perceive as similar to ourselves, and research suggests that attraction will increase if we perceive our commonalities are rare or unusual,” says Madeleine Mason Roantree, dating coach at The Vida Consultancy. So yeah, it’s def a big deal if your parents went to the same high school or you’re both Scorpios (it’s okay to geek out).

11. Don’t be afraid to get a lil touchy-feely. “The occasional subtle touch enhances our feelings toward each other, whether it be picking up an imaginary hair off a shoulder or a gentle pat on the arm as you laugh at a joke,” says Roantree. This applies especially for all of you physical touch love languagers.

12. Spend lots of time with them. This may be the more obvious one of the mix, but quality time is everything. I mean, how are you going to get to know someone unless you spend time with them? It’s a thing called “The mere exposure effect” and it “refers to the fact that simply being around someone often and long enough will increase their liking of you,” says Roantree.

Sunday, March 29, 2020

THE 5 STAGES OF RELATIONSHIPS: WHICH RELATIONSHIP STAGE IS YOURS AT?

5 Stages Of Love Relationship That Most Couples Go Through..

Love Stage #1 – The Passionate Beginning

The first stage of love, often called the “honeymoon phase,” is what most people envision when they think of falling in love. 



This is the stage where you meet a potential partner and begin to have feelings for one another.Your heart skips a beat when you see them.

This is the stage when you disregard or overlook anything negative or imperfect about your potential mate.Their weaknesses seem nonexistent.

Other people might see them, but you have no idea what they’re talking about.
If only you could stay in this stage forever!

However, that is not realistic. For a relationship to last, you have to know your partner intimately, including all of his or her flaws and faults.

Love Stage #2 – Things Start to Get Serious

As the five stages of love naturally progress, you move from the passionate, intense, fun stage to a more serious place.

This is where you become a real couple and start to build a life together.

At this point, couples are usually getting married, moving in together, and starting to build a family.

Your two individual lives have merged into one. When couples hit this stage, they feel safe in the relationship.

People think this is where true love appears because they have moved past the infatuation stage and built a deeper relationship.

There are still three stages to go, though, and the next one is make-it-or-break-it time.

Love Stage #3 – Disillusionment

This is the stage where you start to feel disappointed by your relationship.

People in this stage may come to think that things have changed, even though they once loved their partner.Others wonder if they were ever really in love in the first place.

This is the stage where many people consider leaving the relationship or wonder if the grass is greener elsewhere.



What most people don’t realize is that Stage 3 is part of the normal progression of a romantic relationship. Instead, they believe they are the only ones experiencing it. Most couples don’t talk about their feelings with each other at this stage, and they rarely talk to others about them either.

That makes it harder for couples to realize that this stage is not only normal, but also something that

everyone goes through in a long-term relationship.

Love Stage #4 – Real Love

If you choose to push past the third stage of love, you will discover a true love that is deeper than anything you could have imagined.

This is when you know your partner’s flaws, imperfections, and failures, but you choose to love them anyway, and they do the same for you.

Love Stage #5 – You Start Making a Difference Together

When most people think of relationships or marriage, they don’t think of Stage 5. At this stage of love, you’ve truly come together as a couple.

You’ve learned how to make your strengths and weaknesses complement each other.

Your relationship is similar. When you and your partner work together, you can accomplish far more than what you can each accomplish on your own. When your relationship reaches this stage, you can make a huge difference in your community or in the world by finding an area or a cause that matters to you both.

 

Saturday, March 28, 2020

How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?!

You want to know how to make him miss you? Here’s what you need to know! 



How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?

If you’re like most women, it’s a LOT. You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive.

All this time presenting yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest. You spend all this time showing him just how good you’d be for him… How amazing his future would be if he chose you as the woman by his side…

And it doesn’t work. It never works. WHY? Why do you work so hard… And the guy in your life just takes you for granted, if he even notices you at all? It’s probably because he’s immature, right? He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone. Or maybe… It’s because you’ve been doing all the work for him.

If He Doesn’t Work for Your Relationship, He Won’t Value It
Fact:

What men value most are those things they have to work hard to get.
Hand a man a college diploma, and he won’t value it as much as if he’d had to put in years of study and effort to earn it.

Hand a man the perfect girlfriend, and he won’t value her as much as if he’d had to woo her for weeks just to get her to go out with him. This is why playing hard to get works.



But, as you’ve probably already noticed…
There’s a BIG problem with playing hard to get. That strategy stops working once he’s actually got you.

Something happens when guys decide they’ve won you. It’s almost like they think, “Game over.” Their minds are already on their next challenge. What is going on?!

And how can you stop it from wrecking your relationship?

It’s Not Just You—ALL Women Experience This
(That’s Why They Ask for Help)
Many women give up on love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off.
But other women try a different approach. They get help. Relationship coach James Bauer is one of the people they turn to.

He noticed that many clients were coming to him, complaining about guys who were blowing hot and cold. Everything would be going great, and then it was like…
Something would change overnight.
A guy who’d been warm, affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant. He’d no longer have any time for her. He wouldn’t smile in greeting. He’d stop making eye contact. His kisses were brusque. Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.
And what he discovered made sense of everything. He knew why these men were backing away. He knew what they needed … and what they weren’t getting.
It didn’t come down to anything wrong with these women.
Rather, it all came down to something he called “The Hero Instinct.”

Most Women Do Something that Drives Men Away…
Without Ever Realizing It

One of the most wonderful things about women is how naturally caring they are.
Look at you. You’re always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him. You’d do anything for him.

You never realize that, in the process…
You’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

You see, he wants to be your hero. He doesn’t want you to be his hero.
Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.

Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world—and get the girl at the same time.



Most men don’t get to indulge their world-saving side in their 9-5 jobs.
Circumstances don’t call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side.

Maybe they can’t save the world. But they can still get the girl.

Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find is…

A girl who needs a hero. Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess… That’s not you.

You’re strong. You’re independent. You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself.

You’re never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.

Instead, you have a lot to offer a man. You’re generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.

And that’s why heroes aren’t showing up in your life. That’s why you’ve ended up with so many takers instead.

Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. If you want a hero.

3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero into Your Life, Starting Today:

1. Ask a guy for help..

Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation. No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.

2. Take pleasure in male company..

Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He’s a guy. It’s okay. You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.

3. Let him earn your respect..


Superheroes love challenges. They don’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They don’t want your love handed to them on a plate. They want to earn it. There’s one thing they crave even more than a woman’s eternal enduring love: A challenge. So give him opportunities to prove himself. You don’t have to do the work of winning him over. Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.

The Obsession Method For women & Men..

It provides you with a secret body language cue to make beautiful women sexually addicted to you for as long as you want.

In The Obsession Method, we reveal a secret language that makes any woman Or men feel an uncontrollable obsession for you.

1. Show Him You Have a Life

I know it seems silly that men would like it when you’re unavailable, but don’t underestimate the power of the chase. Make yourself too available, and you might turn him off. But show him that you’re a busy lady with lots going on, and he’ll want you even more.

You can also text him about what you’re up to. Send him a photo of the fish you just caught or the band you’re watching. This makes him feel more connected to you while also showing him that you’re not sitting around waiting for him to text.

2. Ask Him Questions

woman texting guy

Show interest in him by asking him questions.

You know you love it when the guy you’re dating asks you questions about your life and interests, so why wouldn’t you reciprocate? Asking questions about his job, his family, his hobbies, or his day is an excellent strategy in how to text a guy to keep him interested.

3. Don’t Always Respond Immediately

Okay, you know I don’t advocate playing games in dating, but this isn’t really a game. It’s more of a strategy that will help you down the road.

What happens if you text him back within seconds now, but a few weeks or months from now you lose interest and drag out the time between responses? He’ll pick up on that immediately.

Another good rule of thumb is to pay attention to how quickly (or slowly) he is to respond to your texts. If he takes all day, you certainly don’t need to reply to him within seconds.

But if he’s fast to respond, you can do the same.

4. Use Emojis Without Going Overboard

Just as texting has evolved over the past years, so has the use of emojis. It’s not just teenagers using them.




Emojis can better express the intention behind your words, which is important because it’s all too easy to misinterpret a text.

But pay attention to how often you use those emojis (and gifs are great, too). If this guy never sends a single emoji, you don’t want to come off as juvenile by peppering your texts with them. Match his cadence.

5. Let Him Initiate (Sometimes)

man texting

Be patient and wait for him to send the first text!

I know you’re super excited about this new guy, lady, but don’t be overeager by always initiating the text conversation. Let him come to you.




Men who want to keep women interested in them:

I know in the early days of dating you may be filled with insecurity, and him taking hours to respond to you may make you worry that he’s ghosted or is no longer interested. But take a deep breath and have a little patience.

Realize that you don’t know what’s going on with him. He could be out with friends. Asleep. His phone could be dead. Silence is not a death sentence. And bombarding him with text after text when he’s unavailable is a huge turnoff.

Will give you the power to make even the nicest, most conservative, most reserved, most innocent girl begin to seek after your attention and affection as if her well being depends on it, she will crave, think and dream of you all day and night…

and this has nothing to do with how you look or how much money you make, the techniques do all the work, you just have to apply it.

Click Here to Download The Techniques and start using them, OR watch explain this secret in the video below..

The Attraction Trip Wire..Make a man feel like your hero!


That Awakens a Man’s Deepest Longing for Love
This longing has ancient origins.
You see,the cause of this longing is written into the very fabric of his DNA. And there it lies, dormant… until one day, the right trigger unleashes its power.

I’d like to show you how to become that trigger, and how to awaken the full force your man’s bonding instinct.

Stories form the foundation of all human connections. They create the sensation of one shared life experience.

It’s strange, but true, that we can even find ourselves rooting for thieves and criminals so long as we see their story unfold.

Movies like Ocean’s Eleven and The Italian Job illustrate this well.



In the movie, Ocean’s Eleven, actors George Clooney, Brad Pitt, and Matt Damon make for a cast of likeable thieves. But beyond their good looks, we get pulled into the story.

We discover what’s driving Danny Ocean’s motivation to rob a casino. A casino that just happens to be owned by his ex-wife’s new lover.
We can empathize with Danny Ocean’s pain.

And by the end of the movie we are actually rooting for him to get away with it. To steal the money and disappear into the sunset with his ex-wife, Tess, by his side.

Perhaps stranger still is the way we respond to fiction in the first place. A skilled novelist can have me on the edge of my seat, rooting for a person who doesn’t even exist in real life.

Literary critics may scoff, but I actually liked the twilight series by Stephanie Meyer.

I think my hand was actually trembling from adrenaline as the Volturi began to march across the field, intent on destroying Isabella’s daughter.

But wait, that’s all make-believe. So how could it cause a physical reaction in my body?

The answer, of course, is the power of story.

Since ancient times, stories have been the primary means by which humans communicated important information.

Because of that, our minds are literally wired for story.

Stories influence our emotions. They are at the heart of communication. Allowing us to feel connected to each other.

When I reach the end of my life, I know which people I will want by my side. It will be those who have witnessed my life story.



The friendly, pretty nurse may be a wonderful person. But if she is a stranger to me, it doesn’t matter what positive attributes she has.

I will still feel alone. Because she does not know my story, and I do not know hers.

Knowing this instinctively, she will expend great effort to quickly summon my friends and family. The people who know my story.

To trigger a man’s deepest feelings of attraction, you need to become a special part of his story. You do that by revealing your needs, and allowing him to help you meet them. Why? Because it triggers his hero instinct.

Make a man feel like your hero, and you unleash his desire to commit to something more. He can’t help it.
He just starts to see you differently.

It’s as if your relationship unlocks a version of himself he has always longed for. It feels right in a way he can’t put into words.

It unleashes his protective instincts, the noble aspects of his masculinity, and most importantly, his deepest feelings of love and attraction.

To Unlock His Undying Devotion!

You know that girlfriend of yours who has the perfect boyfriend?
The guy with the gorgeous floppy hair, quirky smile, and big heart devoted entirely to one person and one person only His girlfriend.

You’re so glad she found him, but honestly?
You are so insanely jealous. It’s hard to stop watching them. The way he’s so attentive to her needs.

The way they seem to share thoughts without speaking. The way he wraps his arms around her so tightly it’s like they’re one body. Watching them makes you ache. Because the guy at your side doesn’t treat you like that.

It’s not that your guy isn’t wonderful. Of course he’s wonderful. It’s more…

How he treats you. He treats you like someone he’s gotten used to.
You know he doesn’t wake up in the morning pinching himself for being lucky enough to snag someone like you.

But you bet that’s what this other guy does. You can see it in his eyes.
The pleasure that radiates from his smile every time he looks at the woman he loves.

So you ask her—half-joking, half-hoping—if he has any brothers. She just laughs.

“Nah, that’s not what you need.” She leans towards you and glances around to make sure no one’s listening. “Want to hear a secret?”
You nod eagerly.

She whispers, “Our relationship was just like everyone else’s before. But then I found out about this crazy secret.

It’s from this relationship coach named James Bauer. It’s, like, the key to unlocking men.”

You nod even more vigorously, but she’s stopped talking. You follow her gaze across the room.

Her boyfriend is holding up a drink, asking her wordlessly if she wants one. She shakes her head, blows him a kiss, and turns back to you.

“So, do you want to know what it is?”
“Yeah!” you say. “If it will help me and my guy read each other’s minds, like you two just did.”
“Okay, then listen closely…”

Women across the world make one universal mistake with men.
It’s not their fault. They’re just following common wisdom. Common wisdom says that men only fall for exceptional women. (Exceptional bodies, mainly.)

If you see a woman with a man trailing behind her like a puppy dog, common wisdom says you can be sure she has something you don’t.
It’s such an obvious explanation and yet…

It’s dead wrong.
That woman?

She’s no more exceptional than you. (Whatever THAT means.)
But what she does have is a very special understanding of men.
She understands that what matters most is NOT what he sees when he looks at her…



But how he sees himself reflected in her eyes.

Men fall for women because of how those women make them feel.
When a man feels like a hero in a woman’s eyes, he swears his undying loyalty to her.

He can’t help it.
Most women don’t have that effect on him.

When he’s around most women, he feels like a dumb guy. Like he’s always doing something wrong. Like he needs a nanny to look after him.

He can count on one hand the number of women who look up to him. Who really, really respect him.

And he’s always going to have a place in his life for those women.
So, how do you make a man feel like a hero?
It sounds kind of silly.

Do you have to engineer some kind of scenario where he has to save kids from a burning house or a little old lady from getting hit by a car?
No. It’s a lot simpler than that.

But the more you appreciate him…
The more he appreciates YOU.
Now, that’s not how most people think.
Most women think they can earn a man’s appreciation by doing lots of things for him.
They’ve got it backward.

The best way to earn a man’s appreciation is to appreciate everything he does for you, no matter how little.

The Strangest Thing Men Desire !!

Have you ever felt attracted to a guy without knowing why?
Maybe you’ve even had feelings for someone you’d rather not be

attracted to. Why does this happen?
How can you fall in love even though your conscious mind resists it?

Experiences like these hint at the hidden world driving our feelings of romantic attraction.

That hidden world is all about emotional reactions. Emotional reactions we don’t consciously control.

The truth is, falling in love is not something we choose to do. It’s more like getting thirsty. You don’t choose to get thirsty. You just notice it. And the stronger your thirst becomes, the harder it gets to ignore.

What if I told you there is a kind of relationship “thirst” all men experience? A kind of thirst that’s impossible for him to quench on his own. Would you like to know what he’s so thirsty for?

To skip straight to the answer, check out this video
that reveals how you can trigger his thirst for something he needs and craves. Plus, I’ll show you how to ensure you are the ONLY person he depends on to satisfy this powerful longing.

Here’s why the man in your life can’t tell you what he craves most from his relationship with you…

He’s embarrassed to admit the truth. And that’s because admitting to this desire actually moves him farther away from the goal.Here’s why…

Okay, picture a woman who feels frustrated that her man never does anything romantic. She finally breaks down and explains her desire to feel romanced and pursued by him.
But he acts like she’s being unreasonable, demanding she name one thing that’s missing from the relationship. So she gives him an example. “It would be nice to get flowers once in a while. Just simple things like that.”

The next day, he brings her flowers. But the magic of this gesture is missing. Because it doesn’t feel special to receive flowers when you had to ask for them.

It’s kind of like that with men, only with a completely different sort of relationship need. You see, men have an insatiable thirst for your admiration.

But he can’t ask for it. He can’t say, “Julie, I really like you, but here’s what’s missing in our relationship.

You don’t admire me enough. You seem to have greater admiration for other men in your life, and that makes it hard for me to picture a future with you.”

He can’t say that because men believe you have to earn admiration. Asking for it is like trying to become popular by announcing you are a cool person. It doesn’t work like that.

He will only feel like your hero when you speak the non-verbal language of admiration. He has to read it between the lines of what you actually say and do.

Now, you might be thinking, “That’s not so crazy. I can understand why a man craves admiration.” But if you’re thinking that, there’s something important I need to tell you.

It’s not just that men crave admiration. It’s that he can’t sustain that “in love” feeling without it.

Nothing kills a man’s attraction faster than a relationship where he doesn’t feel needed. He wants to see himself as a provider. Someone who is admired because of his ability to provide.

You see, if he doesn’t feel needed, he feels like less of a man emasculated. And that turns off his romantic drive.

And the worst part? You can’t just give him admiration. It only works if he believes he has earned your trust, admiration, and respect.

But here’s the good news. It’s both fun and easy to let him earn your admiration once you know how to set him up for success.

Just find ways to let him be your hero. Now, I should mention there is actually an art to doing that in a way that makes him crazy about you.

But I’ve seen women wrap a man around her pinky using this simple concept. As a relationship coach, I have seen what works and what doesn’t. But what it all comes down to is this…

You need to trigger his hero instinct.

Accomplish that, and you’ll be astonished by what happens next. He’ll become so loving, so attentive, so much more interested in a committed, long-term relationship, that you will never want things to go back to the way they were.
The hero instinct is a subconscious drive to gravitate toward people who make him feel like a hero. But it’s amplified in his romantic relationships.

Thursday, March 26, 2020

How To Make Him Miss You More Than Ever Before


Obviously, when you’re in love with someone, you want to spend much time with that person. But to create a feeling to miss you.

you need to sometimes not be with him. You don’t always have to give up all your time for him. Your boyfriend is not going to miss you if you’re always available.

Find things that you can put into yourself. Create your own space and time away from him.
While it is important to spend time together to win his heart, it is equally important to give some space so that he’ll realize how special you are and how much he really misses you.

Hang out with your friends.. 

You don’t have to hang out with him all the time. You should also catch up with your friends often.

Plan a girls’ night out or a girl’s trip, then share to him some fun moments with your friends.

After spending a few days away from him, he may be happy you’re having a good time but he will also become jealous. If he sees how much fun you’re having, he’s going to want to come along on your next adventure.

This way, you can also balance out the equation and do something without him which will ultimately make him miss you.

Highlight the fun arts of your life using social media.

If you want him to miss you, you can use social media as your advantage. Update your social media feed so he can see all the fun you’re having.

Guys are definitely more visual creatures so give him something good to look it and he’ll be hooked, which brings you to the next step. But make sure you do not fabricate fake posts, just be you, be fun, and be authentic.

Wait for some time before returning his texts and calls.. 

Another way to make your boyfriend miss you is by not instantly responding to his texts and calls.

Show him that you have other life going around. So, whenever he calls or texts you randomly, make him wait for some time before answering it.

This way, he will miss you more than you thought he could be.

Find a signature scent that will remind him of you.. 

Simply, wear your signature scent whenever you meet your boyfriend so that slowly he will start recognizing you with that smell.

As much as possible, use the top quality brand of perfume, shampoo, or lotion.

Just imagine yourself resting on his shoulder or chest, and leaving behind your beautiful scent on his body, this will leave him thinking about you every time he smells something even faintly similar. 

Go on a weekend getaway without him.. 

Anything that doesn’t include him will keep him at bay and leave him wanting for more. Take a weekend off and go by yourself or with friends. Just relax, treat yourself, and enjoy.

Once you come back, you can be sure he will be more than glad to see you. 

Don’t worry about him enjoying the free time with his friends. Of course, giving him space to enjoy is going to make you look confident and less clingy.

He may seem to enjoy it, but eventually, your boyfriend will crave more time with you. So, the next time he tries to come up with excuses to hang out with his friends, let him go.

If he wants to go on a boys’ trip, allow him. The more time he is away from you, the more he will realize what he’s missing.

He might think his friends are important and deserves his time but he will soon learn that he can’t spend his lifetime with only them, he needs you.

Invest in yourself.. 

Treat yourself to a new make up look, dress up for him, or get a new haircut. It will leave you attractive and unforgettable in your boyfriend’s eyes and mind even after you leave.

He’ll start thinking of you and wanting to be closer to you. This will work especially if you’re getting attention from other guys around you.

So, invest in yourself and make yourself feel good to make your guy miss you.

Bring back the mystery and suspense.. 

Try not to share everything you’re thinking or feeling. Rather than letting him get used to your routine, challenge him new activities and give him more of the fun and positive associations he is enjoying.

Remind him of your courting stage where everything was still a mystery between the two of you.

Be independent..
Getting a little more independent and a less reliant on him will make him miss you more. When you stop reaching out to him for the silliest of things, he’ll start to wonder and that, I bet, will be in your favor.

Make Him Hunt You!

1. Have Confidence in your Femininity:
You’ve probably heard or read a lot of advice about having confidence in yourself as a way how to be attractive to the other gender.

We’re going to take things a step farther by specifically giving you one of the aspects of your life to be confident about.

In this case, concentrate on being more feminine. Embrace the fact that you’re a woman. Cherish it. And most importantly of all, enjoy being a woman.

You’re entitled to be feminine so go ahead and take advantage of that right.

2. Smile and laugh:
Some girls do not know how or when to smile. It’s such a shame though since a smile is easily one of the best ways to get you to be irresistible to guys.

There are many different kinds of smiles you can use to attract guys.

There’s a polite smile that works great if you’re feeling a little shy.

There is also the come hither, the flirtatious smile if you’re feeling extra bold. There’s the “we-share-the-same-pain” smile which can also act as a great ice breaker.

3. Make Eye Contact:
Another great way on how to be irresistible to men is by making eye contact. Sometimes stronger than a spoken word, eye contact has the power to convey all sorts of messages.
In this way, it is quite similar to a smile. Making eye contact with a guy lets him know that you have noticed him and that you’re interested in him.

Holding your gaze and curving your lips into a smile is practically an open invitation for a proper introduction. Such confidence is alluring to men, and they won’t be able to keep themselves from approaching you after that.

4. It’s okay to let them know you need them:
Becoming irresistible to men also has a lot to do with learning how to understand a man.

If you want to become irresistible to the man of your choice, try lowering your pride a bit and let him know when you need him.

This does not mean you have to be all needy and clingy. That’s taking things too far.

Simply put, you just have to act naturally and let a guy know when you’d appreciate his manly help. You shouldn’t deny the fact that you’re a woman and as such, there are things that men can do more easily than a woman might be able to.

5. Know how to accept Defeat gracefully:

Keep in mind that even though you might be able to learn all the tips and tricks in the world in order to master how to be irresistible to men, that does not automatically mean you’ll be the ideal woman for every guy.

There will always be instances where a man may still turn you down. Make sure you understand you’re not always being turned down because you may not be attractive in the eyes of the man in question.

It could simply be because the guy’s already committed to, or in love with someone else, or for any other reason outside your realm of influence.
6. Show off your unique Personality:
Often, men are attracted to a woman because she might look like his mother or because they are similar to his ex-girlfriend.

However, understand that men find women with unique personalities absolutely irresistible. Therefore, if you want to put a special mark in his mind and heart, you have to show off your unique personality.

Think of your best characteristics that other women don’t have and use it to attract men.

7. Be good to Others:
Show him how kind and nice you are to other people. Men will ignore and even completely forget about women who nag, insult and make fun of others.

Because men are drawn to women who they believe they will never hurt them and who they believe that they know how to take care of them.

Men, therefore are strongly drawn to women who are genuinely nice to others. You do not have to be an angel to do this, but you need to learn how to respect others no matter what they’re color and race is.

8. Act sexy:
Do you know how to flirt? If you want men to like and love you like crazy, you need to know the art of flirting. Flirting can be simply defined as acting sexy – talking, walking, and smiling sexily.

However, be very careful with putting this to work. Men might think that you are looking for somebody who will either invite you to his place or somebody you can invite to your place.

Always know your own limits and never come across as trying.

My Boyfriend Still Talks To His Ex Should I Be Worried?

1. Follow up on social media..

Yes, I am suggesting ethical snooping.

2. Do not give him an ultimatum..

Under no circumstances, should you give him an ultimatum. Things like, “Never talk to her again” or “Are you sure you want to keep talking to her even when it makes me uncomfortable?”

will do more harm than good. For him, it might come across as demanding and you are telling him the people he can talk to and to whom he cannot.

You are his girlfriend, not the mother of a 14-year-old teenager.

3. Address the Situation Openly..

Don’t hide the fact that you’re bothered or insecure.

This doesn’t mean that you should blame your boyfriend for feelings of jealousy that you might have.

This simply means that you should acknowledge them.

Communicate your fears to your boyfriend. If he doesn’t seem to care or acts really defensive about it, then maybe you should press him for more details. 
4. Figure Out Why He Is Talking to His Ex..

Some people can genuinely be “just friends” . Maybe they started dating, realized their feelings were mostly platonic, and decided to remain friends.

This is the ideal situation if your boyfriend is still talking to his ex: they are basically close friends who have no romantic feelings whatsoever.

There’s little to be jealous about if their relationship was short-lived and not very fiery.

Even better, if your boyfriend’s ex turned out to be gay (or straight, if you’re gay) and that’s why their relationship ended, then there’s not as much of a chance that something inappropriate is happening between them.

On the other hand, there’s more reason to be suspicious if there’s no conceivable reason that they’re still talking.

For example, let’s say that your boyfriend and his ex had a purely physical relationship and went through an explosive breakup.

Furthermore, they were never very good friends in the first place. Why would they still be talking?

How long have your boyfriend and his ex been apart?

How long have your boyfriend and his ex been apart?

5. Consider How Long Your Boyfriend and His Ex Have Been Apart..

Did they break up like a million years ago, before you even met each other? In that case, maybe the fire between them has cooled off enough that they can legitimately be friends without any drama.

On the other, hand, did they break up just last month? Did they break up because of you?

If it’s only been a few weeks and your boyfriend is already talking to his ex, this might be something that you’ll want to calmly address with him.

6. Take Some Time to Think (and Cool Down)..

Even if you find information that you don’t like while probing your boyfriend about the situation, take some time to be by yourself and think about what’s going on.

Before you react, reflect on what your rational response should be.

Remember that if your reaction is based on insecurity, you may do irreparable damage to your relationship.

You might unwittingly send the message to your boyfriend that you don’t trust him. How will he react to that? Is he really doing anything wrong? Think carefully about what you’ve learned and the best way to proceed.

Obviously, if you’ve discovered that your boyfriend is sending naked pictures to his ex or something like that, there’s less to think about.

In unambiguous situations like those, you might just want to kick the guy to the curb.

Things Everyone Should Do After A Break-Up



One of the trickiest parts of navigating post-breakup reality is figuring out whether you actually want to stay in touch. Sometimes totally eliminating the ex from your life will serve you better in the short (and maybe long) term.

There are a ton of factors that can go into that decision — how long you were together, whether the breakup was amicable or mutual, whether you share friends, pets, or a living space.

Stay with friends or family for a bit, go on a social media detox, and spend some time focusing on what you really want. It may make sticking to your decision easier since you’ll be extra clear on how you got there.

Temporarily cross those off your list of go-to places and try mixing up your routine with new and unfamiliar territory. Avoiding some of the obvious heartache-inducing spots may also help you sidestep unnecessary rumination and brooding.

Accept that it’s over, Meditate, talk to friends, journal — do whatever you can to mindfully accept where you currently are in your life and reflect on how to take steps forward, not backward.

Accept the sad, bad, and blank emotions, It can be tempting to distract yourself with a million activities but feeling your feelings rather than numbing out will help you deal with the situation and move on rather than dragging it out.

Allowing yourself time to feel sad can help you move through the emotions, but don’t let it get to the point where you’ve lost interest in all the things that used to make you happy.

Do your best to avoid total isolation and ask your nearest and dearest for some support, whether that means heart-to-heart conversations.

Consider a social detox by opting out of the apps for a while, and if you need to mute or unfollow your ex in order to really move on, then do what works for you — if they don’t respect your space or need for distance, then consider your breakup a good thing.

Don’t make drastic changes to your physical self or your personality
We talked about those terrible post-breakup bangs.

But besides unfortunate haircuts, a lot of people fall into a self-criticism spiral following the deterioration of a relationship and start looking for ways to “fix” what they assume caused things to go wrong.

Time to do some emotional house cleaning and eliminate the stuff that makes you sad, brings back a flood of memories, or in any way keeps you stuck in the past. Donate what you can or give particularly sentimental items to friends for safekeeping.

Try something new that you never got to do — alone, Whether your relationship lasted six years or six weeks, you likely got very used to being attached at the hip to another human. It’s time to do the thing you always wanted but never go to do.

We’re talking bigger than hobbies. Go for the once-in-a-lifetime stuff like skydiving, a solo trip to another country, or backpacking in the woods!
Use your new free time to build new skills or habits, Sometimes the best way to get through a tough time is to take the focus off yourself entirely or explore a totally unfamiliar skill.

Volunteer with an organization you care about, take random classes, join a sports league — do anything that gets you out of that dreaded comfort zone and opens your eyes to new horizons.


Ways to Be Irresistible to Men…In 4 Simple Steps



Be a Mystery..

The only way to turn attraction into passion is to insert your way into a man’s thoughts.

This doesn’t mean wearing something revealing so he’s picturing you naked while talking to you.

It means making a strong impression, one that leaves him unable to stop thinking about you for days.

The best way to do this is to be a little mysterious.

He doesn’t need your whole life story right off the bat. Part of the excitement of starting a new relationship is the discovery process, it’s that desire to know more and more about the other person.

The human mind loves to fill in missing gaps and the unknown always has a certain level of intrigue.

Studies have shown that we are most attracted to people when we don’t know exactly how they feel about us. If he knows exactly where you stand he may get bored and move on.

If he knows he doesn’t have a chance, he won’t want to bother. If he thinks he might have a chance, you’ll have his full attention.

Be Confident..

This one is the winner every time. Guys want a confident, happy woman.

A woman who loves herself knows her worth, and knows she can get what she wants in this world.

Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.

It gives you the confidence to choose who to be with and to believe someone worthwhile will want to be with you.

If you have low self-esteem, make it a priority to work on this.

Learn to find more joy and meaning in your life. Until you get there, act like someone with high self-esteem.

This means not being jealous of other people, not needing guys to validate you, not putting yourself down and complaining about your life.
  
Not neglecting your femininity..

Most men want to feel like a man.

The best way to encourage this is to embrace your femininity. Tap into your soft, gentle, graceful side, we all have it in us somewhere.

I know today’s society encourages women to be bold, tough, and aggressive.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t be a strong woman, I’m just saying to temper this out a bit by not neglecting your femininity.

Be playful..

Men simply adore playful women.

I am not saying that you should be all over the place when you don’t feel like it but simply not stuck in a routine will be enough for a successful relationship.

If you feel good with the guy you like, show him your wicked side.

Learn how to play hard to get just to keep him interested in you. Use different tricks to make him fall for you.

Tease him and never let him have all of you, at least if you are not ready for that.

But whatever you do, don’t let the old spark die in your relationship.
Always work hard for what is quality, especially if we are talking about the most important guy in your life.

How To Forgive A Cheating Husband…


Don’t neglect your emotions..

You will want to take your anger out by hurting your cheating husband or by taking revenge.

This is not the right way to face your emotions, try dealing with your anger without taking it out on your husband.

Try talking to a close family member or a friend, consider writing your feelings down in a diary or a journal, go for a walk, sing or dance it out or even punch a pillow.

Just do not project your rage on people around you.

Forgiveness will set you free..

When the person you have vowed to stay with and love forever cheats on you, your first instinct is to curse him and never ever forgive him. Forgiving a cheating spouse is not easy.

But, forgive your husband not because he is sorry and has apologized a million times; forgive him for YOUR peace of mind because YOU deserve it. Letting go of mistakes and forgiving is an important tool for a prosperous marriage.

Forgiveness does not mean that you are overlooking the insensitive behavior of your husband.

but it is still possible to forgive him when you cannot help but picture your husband betraying you and you start feeling nauseated, think of your calm happy place or distract yourself and do something so you do not think about it for too long.

give him a chance to become a better husband.
Get The Answers You Need..

Don’t hesitate to ask for the answers you need.

Ask your husband what made him do it.

Learn about what might make him do it again. Ask him if something about your marriage pushed him into doing it.

Build a new marriage and make it your goal to survive the anger and the insecurities.

You and your husband need to reassure each other to come out of this rough patch.

Learn how to forgive a cheater first, give him a second chance and you will see the change in your husband soon.

And these are the three ways to teach you how to forgive a cheating husband.

How to Attract Men Without Talking..


Smile..
Men just need a little encouragement.

If you can make eye contact, smile at them. If they’re available and interested, they’ll come over.

I remember just smiling at a guy in a bar once; it was like he’d been waiting for a green light because he came over immediately and we ended up dating for three months.

Ask for his help..

As 1950s as this sounds, men really like being helpful.

Open up about a challenging situation at work or ask him for an app recommendation.

“Think of whatever you can ask him that makes him thinks he’s smart — other than his stomach, through helpfulness is the best way to get to him,” said Tessina.

Talk about your hobbies..

Talk about little things you do, like keeping fresh flowers at home, doing yoga, reading a book every week, or getting a good night’s sleep, said Emily Holmes Hahn, founder of LastFirst bespoke matchmaking club.

They might seem insignificant, but any sign of a “centered and balanced lifestyle” is encouraging, she said.

Look him in the eye..


Both Tessina and Hahn recommend some classic, direct eye contact.

(But don’t stare them down, either.) Some friendly eye to eye will let him know you’re interested, so don’t be afraid to eye-flirt across the room!

Say thank you..

It turns out men actually get annoyed when women don’t say thank you, according to Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher, founders of the matchmaking company Project Soulmate.

“Even the most confident guy needs a thank you,” said Zucher.

Know when to give up..

If you make eye contact with a cute guy and you appear to be open, friendly, and inviting, and he still doesn’t come over, you probably don’t want to waste your time going after him.

He knows something you don’t—like, that he’s not interested…or he’s married.

When you feel attracted to someone do they feel it too?

There are subtle hints, cracks in the nuance of human emotion that hint mutual attraction. Here is a list of them..


Prolonged Eye Contact..One of the commonest identifiers of mutual attraction is prolonged eye contact.
When someone is curious about you or thinks about you all the time, they often gaze at you with this piercing and intense look. Sometimes, it even borders into creepiness.

If someone is a little too friendly with you, it means that they want you to be more than just friends with you.

When There is Energy Between Lovers Sure, they might do others a favour or two or have a sober conversation with them, but when they are with you, they always do a little extra and treat you like you’re special and unique.

Willingness to spend a lot of Time Some people love our company. They always call us whenever they need some help or want to hang out casually.

But when someone, other than a friend or a family member, especially a potential partner wants to revel in our company all the time, it means something entirely different.

They would rather sit in silence with you than watch a movie or go out with friends and have a grand time because they consider you more important than “just any other friend”.