Tricks to Help You Strike Up a Conversation With That Cute Guy!

DON’T FREAK OUT—HE IS JUST ANOTHER PERSON.

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 Stop putting pressure on yourself to create the perfect conversation starter and just introduce yourself. Who knows, he might lead the conversation after all. Sure, we can compile a list and play out in our minds how we see conversation flowing. But maybe he wanted to talk to you first, and will get (and keep) the conversation going.

EVERYONE LOVES FOOD.

“Any idea where I can find some good sushi here?” is always a great intro. When is it ever bad to discuss where you can find the best meals in your city? Food is a great topic because we all eat! Don’t be afraid to throw out your own recommendations for your favorite (and bonafide best) Thai place in exchange.

EVERYONE LOVES A DEAL.

Talk about the best deal you have gotten lately. How fun is it to talk about scoring something on the cheap? Not only that, but it could be an opportunity to ask about their interests. If he spends money on it, it must be something he finds worthy (or worth it.) Even talk about things you recently saw on Groupon or LivingSocial. Everyone loves a deal.

GO AHEAD AND TALK TECH.

Does he have his iPhone on his lap? You best believe he has some apps on there. Talking technology is totally within limits, seeing as our phones are always out (or in-hand). Ask him for some suggestions. “I’m looking for some new apps, which ones do you like?” And you probably have a few to share too.

DON’T OVERTHINK IT.

Etiquette expert Emily Post said, “Ideal conversation is an exchange of thought, not an eloquent exhibition of wit or oratory.” And so often we feel pressure to say the wittiest thing that it halts us from saying anything at all. Don’t be afraid to ask questions you feel like you should know the answer to or enjoy a completely unoriginal exchange of pleasantries. Who knows where it might lead!

BE A LITTLE VULNERABLE.

Show up to a party and realize you recognize absolutely no one? Or you may even genuinely have a bit of social anxiety, holding you back from engaging in conversation. Rather than sulk by the buffet, use your discomfort as an opening line by saying, “I wasn’t sure if I would come tonight, but I am glad I did!” That will engage your party to open up and talk about how they got invited or how they know the host. Why not be honest?

RUMINATE A LITTLE.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.” Eleanor must be turning in her grave with how much we discuss current events and pop culture. Don’t be afraid to skip the go-to”Is it just me or is it really crowded in here? ” and ask them what they think about: the speaker, the concert, something that was trending on your Facebook newsfeed, etc. You have a great mind, so discuss ideas! Even better, the ideas of others. Listened to a great podcast? Relay what you heard. Curious about REM sleep? Fill him in on the latest sleep study you read. Not only can you dive into ideas you’ve been processing, but you can also ask him if he’s been intrigued by anything lately.

TALK MUSIC.

So if his headphones are in, he might not be in the mood to talk. But if he takes them out, ask him what he’s listening to. You may have struck gold with a music buff. Maybe you saw his screen when he was flipping through songs—it doesn’t hurt to say, “I love that band!” or “I saw you were listening to Coldplay; have you heard their new single?” Inputting your own music taste might be an awesome way to make a connection.

LOOK FOR MORE THAN A “YES” OR “NO.”

According to Chris Colin and Rob Baedecker, authors of What To Talk About, focus on asking open-ended questions that will hopefully avoid a one-word answer. Some examples: “If you could teleport by blinking your eyes, where would you go right now?” Or “What are you looking forward to this week?”

How Many Dates Before A Relationship!

We’ve all heard those adorable stories about our grandparents meeting on a train and falling madly in love at first sight. How many dates before relationship was a question they never really considered.

 Nowadays, dating is more difficult. We simply have many more choices when it comes to love and everything else, and we’re used to processing a ton of information on a daily basis. That’s why even dating has become complicated.

We don’t want to rush into something fast and then realize there was a better option on the table. But then we risk losing a cool ​guy because we waited too long to commit.

It seems like dating has turned into a game we can’t win. Sometimes we can’t even tell if a guy likes us or not.

Of course, one of the trickiest things is picking the right moment to have “the talk.” This leaves us with the key question: How many dates before a relationship?

If you were expecting me to give you a magic number, some universal answer that works every time, you can stop reading right now.
I can’t give you a magic number because it doesn’t exist.

The reason is simple, every person on the planet is different, and so is every couple. Two people can fall in love on the first date, or they can develop chemistry over time and decide they want to be a couple after 10 dates. There are no rules.

But, don’t lose hope yet. We wouldn’t be here if I didn’t have some tips on how to calculate your own personal magic number to decide how many dates before a relationship.

Questions To Ask Yourself
Before you even consider anything else, you need to sit down and have a talk with yourself. There are three questions you need to answer.

1. Are You Ready For A Relationship?

The first thing you need to figure out is whether or not you’re ready for a relationship. Maybe you’re still hurting from your previous relationship, or you’re swamped with work at the moment and wouldn’t have time to commit fully.

Ask yourself this question and follow your heart. There’s nothing wrong with being single for a while if you come to the ​conclusion that you’re still not ready.

2. How Well Do You Know Him?

Don’t rush into anything before you ask yourself how well you know this guy. Otherwise, you might idealize him, think you’re falling in love and get serious with someone you don’t even know.

Sooner or later you might realize he’s not the person you imagined him to be and get disappointed.

3. Do You See A Future?
The initial infatuation may blind you for a while. This guy is attractive, charismatic and fun and you love hanging out with him. And before you know it, you’re in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

Even though he may be fun, ask yourself if there’s a future for you two.
How To Know If He’s A Keeper
Once you’ve figured out what you want, you need to figure out what he wants. Is he ready to commit to you and start a relationship? Here are some signs you need to pay attention to.

He’s Interested In Your Life.
When you get together, he takes an active interest in your life. He asks you about your day, listens when you talk and offers his honest opinion or advice if you’re going through something tough.

He Stays In Touch Between Dates
After a date, he doesn’t wait a week to text or call you.

He doesn’t just contact you when he wants to see you, but also checks in every few days to see what you’re up to.

He Wants To Go Out On Dates.
If he’s only interested in sex, you’ll quickly realize it. He will avoid going out in public with you and only want to hang out at his place or yours.
But if he wants a relationship, he will want to take you out on dates and never pressure you into having sex when you’re not into it.

He Introduces You To His Friends.
If this guy wants you to meet his friends, it’s almost a sure signal he wants a relationship with you.

Guys value their friends’ opinions just like we do, so if he’s trying to get you to hang out with his crew, he’s serious about you.

He Asks About Your Opinion.
You can bet he really likes you when he’s asking for your opinion.

Whether it’s about buying a new pair of sneakers or making an important career decision, a guy who’s ready to be your boyfriend always wants to hear what you think.

He Brings Up Relationship Talk.
He brings up relationships first? You’re in luck because this is a proven sign he wants to commit to you and he’s testing the waters.

When he brings it up, make sure you give him the right feedback. If you want a relationship too, now is the time to say it.

Why Do Men Give Silent Treatment After A Break-Up..

You never thought it would come to this, but the worst has happened. You and your boyfriend broke up. And if that wasn’t bad enough, you’re left wondering why men give silent treatment after a breakup. I mean, is it really so necessary?

Even though you left things on friendly terms and you agreed to stay in touch, your ex is nowhere to be found. You’ve tried to contact him, you’ve called and sent a couple of texts to see how’s doing but all you got in return was radio silence.

After a few weeks, it’s clear to see that your ex is giving you the silent treatment. But why is he doing it? After all, you said you’d try to stay friends.

Understanding men is never easy but there several reasons why men give silent treatment after a breakup. Here’s what could be going on in his head.

In this situation, your mind will start running wild. You’ll probably even get to the point where you think that he never even cared about you. You are hurt and confused and you miss him, so how can he be so heartless to ignore your texts and calls?

Well, one of the most common scenarios is that this is just his way of dealing with the breakup. It doesn’t mean he’s indifferent; just the opposite. He is just as hurt as you, but he needs time and space to get over the breakup. Maybe you’re ready to be friends, but he’s not.

In this case, try to respect his pain and give him the space he needs. After some time, if he still wants you in his life, he’ll reach out to you.
He’s Too Proud To Admit He Misses You.

Some men never let their feelings rule them and they would never swallow their pride and show vulnerability. If this sounds like your ex, then he may just be too proud to admit he misses you.

This is more likely if you broke up with him. You already hurt his pride regardless of why you did it and he probably agreed to stay friends just to save face.

Once the dust settled, he realized that he needed to keep his distance from you so he wouldn’t cave and tell you how much he misses you. He still cares, but his attitude probably won’t change soon.

If you want to stay in touch with this kind of man, you’ll have to give him plenty of time. This is where the no contact rule can be very helpful.
He’s Taking Revenge.

If you were the one who messed up or broke up, he could be giving you silent treatment to get back at you. And the more you messed up, the bigger the chance this is exactly what’s going on right now.

Your course of action depends on whether or not you want to make up.
If you regret your mistake and want to give your relationship a second chance, you’ll need to have a game plan to apologize and show him how much you actually care about him.

But if you’re the one who initiated the breakup and you have no intention of getting back together, maybe it’s time to let it go. Insisting on a friendship is selfish and will only hurt him more.

He Doesn’t Want To Get Your Hopes Up.

He may look like a monster in your eyes for suddenly giving you silent treatment after all those happy moments you shared, but he might actually be doing it for your own good.

As long as you still have feelings for him and you stay in touch, there is that slight glimmer of hope that you’ll somehow end up together again. He wants to eliminate that hope but not because he’s a bad person but because he cares about you and doesn’t want to hurt you.

You Found Something On His Phone. Now What?

Was The Snooping Worth It?

First and foremost, no matter his transgression… you have to realize you just committed a serious breach of trust.

There might have been a doubt in your mind that he’s cheating, or that something’s wrong.

But the moment you decided to go through his phone, you lost the right to take the high ground in the incoming conflict.

Even if you are the most loyal girlfriend in the world, your phone is still your most personal possession.

Just one swipe of the thumb gives you access to a person’s Instagram, messenger, gallery, calendar, and any bit of information they might want to keep private.

Imagine if someone had done that to you – not cool, right?
Which is why you must understand that he WILL get defensive, and for good reason.

Consult With Yourself First 

So, before you react, take a few minutes to think, or even sleep on it.

Go through whatever you are feeling and really think about the whole situation.

Are the texts or DMs you found outright showing he’s cheating on you? Or are you just projecting your fears and insecurities onto actually harmless texts?

Being reactive after finding something incriminating can cause you a lot of trouble.

Instead, reflect on what you found, and – without any more snooping – use that information to understand his suspicious behavior.

Ask Yourself The Following:

How long you two have been dating? Are you exclusive, or are you allowed to be available to others?

Is the other woman in question someone you know or not? As this can factor in your decision on how to approach the problem.

Has he been avoiding contact lately and could this be why?

In what way can you approach the problem without him storming out in a rage?

Is this something that can potentially ruin your relationship?

Is your relationship something you even want to save?

Don’t be afraid of these questions, nor the answers.

They’re your only anchors now as you plan the “confrontation.”

And they will help you decide what to do next.

Approach Carefully

When you decide to talk to your boyfriend, be careful how you’re going to start.

Even if he turned out to be the sleaziest guy in the world.

Why should he get the satisfaction of seeing you all riled up? What’s worse, you’ll turn out to be a psycho that went through his phone over nothing.

Remember: “I went through my boyfriends phone and found something.”
You’re that girl.

Approach carefully.

Don’t Be Quick To Judge
Start by telling him about the thoughts you’ve been having.

Mention the doubts you’ve had, the changes in his behavior, every possible reason you had to invade his privacy.

He’s going to have his own leverage in this confrontation as well – after all, you did invade his privacy, and openly showed your distrust.

Because no matter his mistake, you’re the one who decided to take a bad shortcut and now you’ll have to deal with more than what you found on his phone.

Luckily, it’s easier to apologize than you thought.

Ask him about what you found on his phone and then let him explain himself.

The chances of him cooking up a storm are slim to none if he sees how calm you are.

No matter how hard it is, don’t lose your cool.

Even if you want to yell at him and storm out, don’t, or you’ll regret it.

More often than not, these things are inflated by our own insecurities and egos.

It’s like he was exchanging a few words with a girl in a bar while you were in the bathroom.

It’s harmless, means nothing, and your reaction to the exchange shows how much you trust him and how safe you feel in your own skin.

Discuss your own feelings and interpretation as much as the content on the phone.

It will lead to a more productive solution for the both of you.

You Always Have A Choice
Staying together is as viable as breaking up.

He could want to break up because those photos or texts were meaningless after all, and he could now see you as a paranoid, jealous girlfriend.

What Can You Take From This?

Finding out the man you love is doing something behind your back is one of the worst scenarios in a relationship.

But there are ways to tackle the issue with grace and dignity.

As I mentioned, the first step is to have a conversation with yourself, to see what you feel.

Then approach your boyfriend and address the things you found on his phone.

Be aware that you violated his trust and have a good reason why you went through his phone in the first place.

Lastly, if possible, make a choice together on what to do from that moment on.

Strategies For Communicating In A Relationship!

Steps to Effective Couples Communication..

 

1. Ask Open-Ended Questions..
If all the questions you ask your man can be answered with a “yes” or a “no,” you’re not effectively communicating.
Men tend to keep things pretty short. If they can answer you with one word, they will. That’s why you have to open the door of communication for him.
In order to make that happen, all you have to do is craft your questions so he has to respond with something longer than a word.
For example, if you want to ask him about how his day was, don’t just say, “How was your day, babe?”
Because he can answer that with a simple, “good.”
Instead, ask him what the best thing that happened that day was. Or even ask him to tell you about his day so he actually has to go into detail.
This opens up the line of productive communication on both ends.

2. Tell Him When You’re Upset..
Us girls have a hard time opening up when we’re mad.
We stomp around and say we’re “fine” even though we know our man just pissed us off. But here’s the thing: guys can’t read minds.
I know, I wish they could too. But the truth is that they also aren’t that great at picking up on clues either.
If you want to be able to communicate with your partner well, you have to get comfortable talking about why you’re upset.
If he said something that came off as rude, just say, “hey hon, that upset me a little.” And then talk about why.
This also serves as a learning tool for both of you.

3. Listen To Understand..
Don’t just listen to be able to reply. You want to fully comprehend what your partner is saying and why it’s so important to him.
Most of us sit and listen just to formulate some retort or argument that’s stronger. When you do this, you lose the meaning of communicating well in the first place.
When you’re talking to your man, make sure you digest everything he says.
If he gets mad for a certain reason, pay attention to what he’s saying and how. This will clue you in to what’s really going on inside his head and will help you better understand him as a whole.

4. Pay Attention To Nonverbal Communication..
If one of you isn’t great at communicating, it’s the other’s job to pick up on the little things you can talk about.
Even though both of you should be working toward healthy communication, it will be harder for one of you than it is for the other.
But, thankfully, humans aren’t that great at hiding their body language.
Even when we’re silent, our body language speaks volumes. It’s your job to learn how to listen to it and interpret its meaning.
Make sure you pay attention to how he’s standing and where he’s facing when he talks to you. It could clue you in to how he’s feeling, which gives you the opportunity to ask him an open-ended question to find out what’s wrong.

5. Talk To Solve Issues..
This seems pretty standard but you’d be surprised at how many people talk (or argue) just to win.
When you come into a discussion armed and ready to win, you’ve both already lost.
You have to talk to solve the problem, not to win an argument. These are not the same things and by making solving the issue a priority, you can put your pride aside to actually get to the bottom of what’s wrong.
This is extremely important because you will always run into problems in your relationship. If you know how to get through them and solve them, your relationship will survive.

6. Never Blame Or Demand..
This is extremely important. If the first thing you do is tell your man what he did wrong, he’ll be defensive right away.
You can’t blame him or demand anything of him when you communicate. Instead, you have to give him a reason to change on his own.
This is best done by showing him that his behavior hurt you. Explain how you feel as a result of what he did – not that he did it to you.

Fun And Creative Date Night Ideas! Unique Date Ideas.

Fun Date Night Ideas! 

  1. Go To An Amusement Park..

Amusement parks are not just for kids. Take a romantic ride on the Ferris wheel, get your adrenaline rush on a wild rollercoaster or just eat some cotton candy and let your hubby win you a teddy bear.

2. Go Dancing..
If you liked to go dancing when you were younger and single, why should you give it up? Ask your man to take you out and dance the night away just like in the old times. Dancing is also an excellent aphrodisiac when you want to get him in the mood.

3. Hit A Karaoke Night..
For most of us, going to a karaoke night means stepping outside our comfort zone big time. But that’s exactly why you should do it. Spend your date night at a karaoke club and challenge your man to a sing-off.

4. Take A Wine Or Brewery Tour..
Is there a vineyard or a brewery somewhere close to where you live? Use the opportunity to relax in the countryside and do a wine or brewery tour. It’s a fabulous combination of nature and exquisite taste for couples who love the finer things in life.

5. Have An Adventure..
If you and your hubby are adrenaline junkies, an adventure will be an ideal date for you. Go skydiving, bungee jumping or rafting, anything that gives you that blood rush you crave, and make sure to find time for adventuring at least once a year.

6. Take A Hot-Air Balloon Ride..
There’s hardly anything more romantic than a hot-air balloon ride. It’s beautiful and exciting at the same time, and it will be a date you’ll never forget. Perfect for an anniversary.

7. See A Comedy Show.. 
A night spent laughing is a night well spent. So grab your partner and see tonight’s stand up – even if it’s not that funny, you can make fun of the bad jokes afterward.

8. Go To A Concert..
There’s nothing that brings people together as the music they both like. If your favorite band is playing soon, buy the tickets and bring your significant other along for a night of incredible fun.

9. Sing Karaoke Together..
I’ll admit it: I’m way too shy to try this one. But if you’re not, grab the mike at your local karaoke bar and sing your heart out. A friendly tip: you’re going to sound so much better after a few drinks (in your head at least).

How to Reconnect With Your Spouse Like Magic!

• Learn To Be Patient..

• Change does not happen overnight.

• You have to act carefully, methodically, and yet simultaneously try to enjoy yourself.

• It will take some time, but if you’re both determined, the results will show.

• Unless, however, your problems run deeper than simply growing colder, in which case you’ll have to start with a more assertive approach.

• Reconnecting with your husband can be a long and arduous process.

• However, the will to fight for your marriage is a great sign that you still believe in the relationship, and want to see it grow.

• But try to remain patient and vigilant, both with him and yourself.

• You’re both human, after all, and you’re bound to make a few mistakes along the way.

• And in case my advice is not enough, head over to Save My Marriage Today.

• Their proven program has got everything you need to rescue your failing relationship, before it’s too late.

• How to Reconnect With Your Spouse Like Magic!

• Steps To Reconnect With Your Husband..

• Famous writer Terry Pratchett once said, “A marriage is always made up of two people who are prepared to swear that only the other one snores.”

• Marriage is the pillar in life you’re supposed to rely on. A relationship sturdier than any other.

• Whether on your own, or together, admit that you’re going through an episode, and work together on finding out where it all began.

• This will not only help to figure out the roots of the problem more easily, but also to strengthen your relationship.

• Most importantly, it will give you the will to continue working on your marriage.

• Learn To Appreciate The Silence
  One thing we often forget to do is to pull the plug on our overactive brains.

• When we’re overstimulated we bring stress into our relationships, putting strain on already frail connections.

• Drop down onto the bed or sofa, sit back and just enjoy the sound of silence together.

• Try not to think about what you have to do in the next minute, hour, or day.

• Ask deep, personal questions you haven’t already discussed.

• Question him about what he loves about your marriage. What he thinks it should be, and how you two could improve on what you have now.

• Ask him about his world view, and if it has changed in the past years.

• Forgo mundane everyday questions and get interested in him as a person again. He’ll appreciate it more than you’d expect.

• Somewhere along the way we lose our capacity to support and encourage, and grow quick to judge and dismiss.You’re supposed to be partners, not enemies.

• Don’t Lose Perspective And by that I mean you shouldn’t lose perspective on what’s important.

• A real tragedy is to lose someone you love or to grow terminally ill.
  Everything else can be overcome one way or another.

• If he forgot to do the dishes or didn’t bring home the right groceries, don’t make a big fuss about it.

• Let Bygones Be Bygones. Whenever you say you forgive and forgot, do forget about it.